Is he busy, uninterested or just want to be friends?

There is a guy whom i know for many years. He's 8 yrs older than me and now pursuing medicine in America while im still in Asia. Despite distance apart, we keep in touch very frequently.

He once asked me whether im interested in any specific guy. I said no. He said he doesn't have a girl in mind either...but he plans to wait till he complete his medical sch education. After asking this question, i realised that he is not as chatty with me as before.

He calls me once in a while despite not having specific reason for calling. On the other hand, i realised that he gives "hugs", superlatives, "flowers" via facebook to a girl. He give some other girls that too, but not to me though i asked him for it once. I'm his No.3 in his top friend list in facebook tho..

Recently he kinda refuse to talk to me during weekdays because he claims to be busy. Whenever i come online on msn, he will appear offline. And whenever i go offline, he will soon appear online. He looks for me during weekends tho.

Is he busy, uninterested or just want to be friends?
i don't know but i don't think internet love works... by that i mean, long distance relationship accommodated by the use of internet features like myspace and facebook...

so.. i have no idea really.

but some people are just slack when it comes to talking on msn.. my bestfriend always goes offline when i'm in the middle of a serious conversation with her.. and then comes back and said 'oh sorry. i forgot i was talking to you.. i was watching tv at the same time'.

so i don't know. he could be just one of those slack msn user... or he's probably just not interested in the long term relationship anymore.
Reply:this guy excibits no beahaviour i really have ever seen the only thing i can say is that he may really be busy, i mean his is going to be a doctor or something like that, i mean he may like some other girls but really maybe he is just so busy during the week he cant talk to you and doesnt want to hurt you or anything potential by saying he cant talk, he doesnt want to make you mad, i dont know this time, i usualyl have an idea but this is a tough question i would say that he doesnt have anyone else but if he says he cant wait to see you and stuff its a great sign, keep me informed add me to your contacts if you wish.
Reply:He's not emotionally interested at this time. And i wouldn't focus your time thinking about him or waiting for him. And stop snooping, it only causes more hurt.
Reply:Oh well, since it's not a internet love thingy. I think it's more complicated. Look, if you want to think positively, he's pursuing med in US now, of cos he'll be VERY busy with his projects and stuff. You can't expect him to get online and chat with ppl every time.

He might think that since you are not interested in him, he should just let u go and move on. Like, making new friends with other girls and finding his own perfect mate.



But when u came online and he went offline and vice versa, it's weird. Maybe he wants to have long conversation with u online and would feel guilty if he tells you he's busy. He doesn't want to chat with u in the weekdays cos he wants to save all those for the weekends so that u both would have a good time chatting.



You could wait for him to come over to Asia and have a chat with him. It'll always be the best solution, or flying to US and find him. :)