Will my wedding be ruined if my bridemaids' dresses are casual?

I let my bridemaids on their own for dresses, I just sent them a link to David's Bridal and told them the color I wanted. Two of them got more casual looking dresses at a thrift store with that color flowers on it. The other one says she has a white dress that she's going to dye.





The wedding is in two weeks, so I can't really order online. The groomsmen are in tuxes and my dress is formal too. My Mom is freaked out and said all the pictures she's paying for will be ruined now.





I told them to get more formal dresses, but now I'm wondering if I should tell them to keep the ones they have. If all three go out for more formal dresses they might be all different and stand out even more. Your thoughts?

Will my wedding be ruined if my bridemaids' dresses are casual?
Stay focused. Your wedding is about the huge commitment you're about to make to another person - presumably for the rest of your life.





It may be something you can look back on and laugh about.





Trust me, the most important thing is your commitment not the dresses on the bride's maids. Remind your Mom they are in a few of the formal pictures, not all of them.





Even if the dresses are horrid - and I hope they're not - it isn't even a blip on the big picture.
Reply:Cancel the wedding. It will be a disaster. .





Are you kidding! Everything will be fine and you will let your personality shine. Just enjoy it and don't worry about anyone else or what they think!





Congratulations!
Reply:First, Davids does usually carry some in stock -- and frequently has the mix %26amp; match ones so you can get the same color but different styles.





Keep in mind that nothing can ruin this day, unless your groom up and walks out. It isn't about the wedding, it is about getting married.
Reply:I'm not trying to be mean, but.......you should have thought of this before now. You're best bet is to take your girls to a place like David's Bridal where you can buy off of the rack and get them new dresses if your mom is willing to still pay for them... Good Luck!!!!
Reply:It's your wedding.


If you like the dresses, keep it.


Honestly, I wouldn't care much. My cousin's wedding was a small one and she didn't have her bridesmaids all look alike.
Reply:No worries, just enjoy your wedding. It will be as fine as you want. It will not be ruined. It will be an original wedding, as you. By the way, it is your wedding not your mom's wedding (although she's paying for it).
Reply:Its already been done the way you did it. Keep moving forward; the pictures will not be ruined. Remember, the dresses fit correctly and they all have your color in them.


What you can do is unify their jewelry- get them all the same jewelry. They will all carry the same bouquet. Perhaps your mother would be willing to pay to get their hair done formal (not all the same of course!) and you are good to go.
Reply:You're the star. You have to shine. Or do you actually WANT to be outclassed by your bridesmaids ?
Reply:Is it possible to rent dresses ?Where I live we have rental shops . Maybe you can do that and everyone be happy . Just be honest and tell them that is not what you were looking for . Good Luck and I hope it turns out for your good !!!!
Reply:Your wedding is IRREVERSABLY TAINTED by your bridesmaids' casual dresses.





End your engagement now, lest your entire life go down the toilet. I mean, if you don't get everything exactly the way you want, the UNIVERSE WILL EXPLODE!
Reply:Since your mother is willing to pay for the bridesmaids dresses then do it. Invite them all and take them to David's Bridal. Pick the dresses, go to a seamstress to adjust the fit, then your wedding will go as planned. Have fun!
Reply:Since your wedding is so close, it may be easier to keep the dresses they have but have them get alterations to make them more formal. Take the dresses to a seamstress and she can give you some ideas on how to make them more suitable for your wedding.
Reply:It's nice of your mom to offer to buy new dresses but she's not even giving these ones a try? Why don't you see the dresses the bridesmaids picked out and then make the decision from there. If you said "go pick your dress, here's the color." Then you gave them permission to let their personalities shine through, and I'm sure it will look nice. Your bridesmaids obviously are close to you or they wouldn't be in the wedding party and so give them a little credit to pick something nice, yet comfortable for them. Also tell your mom to chill. I realize she's panicking too cause her daughter's getting married in two weeks, but it was your decision to let the bridesmaids pick out something unique to them as long as it was the color of your choice and your mom should accept that decision. Besides the focus is on you, the bride, not the bridesmaids, and if they are more casual type girls then it will look fine. Sometimes I think casual dresses that show the bridesmaid's personalities are a lot better and classy looking then the bridesmaids in the same dress that was made obviously with every body type in consideration. I say leave it be, your wedding and picture won't be ruined. Just my opinion.
Reply:Why would your wedding be ruined over bridemaids dresses?I wouldnt tell them to get new dresses unless you or your family plans on paying for them.They may not be able to afford to get new ones either.Are you doing this to please mom?Remember this is YOUR and your soon to be hubbys day not mom's!!
Reply:I think you should be asking yourself that question... Apparantly you have already seen the dresses your friends picked out, so what did you think about them? Did you think they looked too casual, tacky, or good enough for your wedding? You definetly don't want them to outshine you of course, so just think about your what you felt like the first time you saw the dresses.
Reply:My sister got married on a beach, in a sweater and pants. Her husband was in a wetsuit. It was awesome.
Reply:My opinion is that it will be wonderful having your friends with you and since it is only two wks until the wedding... tell your mom to chill. Have a wonderful special day...
Reply:I think with two weeks to go it's best to simply let them wear the dresses they got. If you had two months to go, then my advice might be different, but it's sort of too late to do anything both drastic and in time.





Will the day or the photographs be ruined? I doubt it. You still have your friends at your side, and the pictures will be of them. It may look a little unusual, but it could be a heck of a lot worse. There will still be some color-coordination and the bridesmaids will all be a similar level of formality, if I'm reading this correctly.





In the end, the important thing is that you find some level of comfort with what is going to be at your wedding.





But you've learned a valuable lesson: when coordinating outfits, make sure everyone clears their choice with the person in charge BEFORE purchasing and before the final date for getting it either ordered or bought.





Now remind your mother that a couple less-than-standard photographs aren't the end of the world and find your own zen spot.





It's either that or take three women who thought they had this out of the way out to the mall in the course of the next week and forcing them to choose one identical dress to all wear. Good luck with that.





I'd leave things as they are and discover my sense of humor about it.
Reply:over 12 years Ive been involved in hundreds of weddings , its up to you but remember that the wedding will happen, so enjoy the day , and just forget the horrid thing your mom said , its your day not hers. so if the dresses are not up to your specs feel free to buy them , but don't make your bridesmaids buy new ones





you should of been more specific
Reply:Let it go. They're just dresses. The important thing is that you and your man are entering into a new phase of your lives - nothing else matters after that.





Think about it a little bit: what would you rather have to remember your wedding day: some sterile pictures of matching bridesmaids with dour expressions on their faces, or more irreverent pictures with dresses your friends were comfortable with that make you chuckle and say "I remember how freaked out my mom was that day..." whenever you tell the story?
Reply:If they are in a sundress and you are in a tx and long dress with train it will look slightly off but I don't think pictures will be ruined. If they have the right color they will match fine. You only have two weeks and therefore you don't have time to get them more formal dresses....remind your mother of that.





You better poke at your bridesmaid who is dying their dress...two weeks is a very short time for that and she should have already finished that. She will have little to no time for alterations.
Reply:my wife did the same thing and she absolutely hated it. But she forgot all about it on the honeymoon. WAH WAH WEE WAH!!!
Reply:Absolutely not. It is your wedding and you can have it whatever way you want. It can be as simple or as elegant or as unusual as you want it to be. Remember that the most important reason for having your wedding is to marry the man you love. Don't worry about what other people think. It is your and your husband-to-be's day. Make those beautiful memories something you both won't forget! Congrats!
Reply:i don't think wedding is dependent on dresses. if you can change, if possible then change. otherwise what will happen, some body will criticize you. let them do it, and just keep mum or neglect then. if you do the best, there will be somebody to blame, it is their business as they don't love you. but they hate you. why you are worried for them? those who love you, can undesrstand you and accept the fact and co-operate. where is the question of breaking the wedding? the routine wedding is not memorable but the one which is different will always be remembered
Reply:you need to set them all down together and explain that you have a vision for your wedding and would like them to be in more formal dresses. I took my bridesmaid to a dress shop and picked 7 or 8 styles in the same color and told them they could chose from those. But since you have only two weeks I would (by your self) go to a store like Macy's or Nordstroms and pick a dress there so you can take them home. They will all have to have the same dress this way but at least it will be a dress that you like. I think that you should take full control now over the decision. Ask all the girls their dress size so that you can go ahead and get them. Tell them the price and they should pay for them if not before you buy then after. Its your wedding and by agreeing to be in your wedding party they agreed to pay for a dress. They can always return their first purchase.
Reply:My bridemaids all had different dresses but were all the same color. The groomsmen also wore a solid dress shirt of one of my wedding colors and a solid tie of the other color. It actually made my husband and I stand out more. Worked out great! Congrats!!! Best wishes!
Reply:if you want them to buy nicer dresses, you need to pay for them, not everyone is on the budget you are for your wedding. (i saw this on a wedding show today, actually)
Reply:You should have had a firmer grip on this earlier on and been more specific. If you decide to go with a more expensive look, you should pay for it.


Remind yourself and Mommy that this is your "big day" not hers. If she can afford a photographer she should offer to pay for the bridesmaid dresses.

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