Too young to be attracted to??

Okay I have a BIG problem! I REALLY NEED ADVICE!!


Please help!





There's this guy that I met online through Myspace 3 months ago. We immediately hit it off and within a week of talking online, we talked on the phone EVERY SINGLE night afterwards. I started talking to him online in late October. We both thought each other was attractive %26amp; over these past 3 months we have had this huge emotional bond form %26amp; one day he accidentally said he loved me %26amp; told me to call him crazy but he wasn't going to deny his feelings. (I too said it back a few weeks afterwards because I thought I really did %26amp; he was such an amazing guy)


So things have progressed within those 3 months and we both make the decision that we want to be with each other. He told me he's never felt this way with any other girl he's ever been with %26amp; that he thinks we have something extremely special. So...here's where it gets really hard...This past Saturday (Jan 26th) we met for the first time. We both had the mindset that we would meet, everything would be perfect %26amp; it would be the start of a longterm relationship.


He comes to my door with a huge smile on his face %26amp; gives me flowers. I gave him a hug %26amp; said thank you. We were just making small talk %26amp; he didn't seem very uncomfortable. So, We went out to Chili's %26amp; to see Cloverfield. As the night went on, I could tell that he was just very uncomfortable. He didn't touch me at all, he was pretty quiet, he avoided eye contact. So I'm thinking what the hell? I thought we were going to hit it off perfectly. We came home, I gave him a hug when he left %26amp; said thanks %26amp; bye. Sunday rolls around %26amp; I can tell he's acting funny when I talk to him on the phone. He's really quiet, really distant %26amp; when I asked when he was gonna see me again, he agreed to any date I was planning for this week, but he wasn't making the plans %26amp; didn't sound too excited . At that moment, my gut starts kicking in and it's telling me something is seriously wrong. Monday afternoon I'm talking to him on the phone %26amp; I just wanted some answers so I pressured him to tell me what was wrong. After an hour he finally tell me. Are you ready for this one!?


...He tells me that he thinks I look very young for my age (20) %26amp; he doesn't feel comfortable at all. He can't get himself to be sexually attracted to me. He's physically attracted to me as in he thinks I'm pretty, but he said because of how young I look (he thinks I look 15-17) that he can't find himself wanting sexual desires. He's 27, so he thinks since I look 10+ years younger that he is just doing something extremely wrong %26amp; he doesn't know if he can get used to that. I go over his house Monday night to try to work this out %26amp; the whole time I'm over there he was just extremely uncomfortable to have me there. He's fidgeting, not making eye contact, doesn't want to touch me, standing while I'm sitting. So I started crying my eyes out because I really thought he was going to be the one who would work out for me %26amp; I'm being judged because I look young. I cry for like 5 minutes %26amp; then he starts crying too because he said he doesn't know what's going on in his head %26amp; he thinks he's crazy. He starts hugging me, but I could tell it was weirding him out. He tells me really wants to be with me because he loves me, but he wants to find me sexually attractive too. I told him I'd stand with him if he could try to get over his problem. He tells me he doesn't want me to because he refuses to drag me down with him %26amp; break my heart any more than he already has. He calls me yesterday %26amp; avoids that subject. Now, I don't want to get strung along so I just bluntly asked what's going on with us? Again we talk about the same thing we did Monday night %26amp; he is very confused on what to do. He tells me he needs some time to figure himself out %26amp; if he feels deserving of me, he'll call me. Which I can totally give him %26amp; understand. But what do I do in the meantime? I don't want to keep my hopes up %26amp; get hurt again, but I don't want to give up on him either. So, I'm heartbroken %26amp; confused. So women...what would you do? and men, have you ever had this problem, do you think he's telling me the truth %26amp; for God's sake, tell me what he's thinking please!!!


Thanks to all who answer.

Too young to be attracted to??
aww, babes.


dont worry.


hes a llama.


he obviously needs to sort his head out so maybe you should have some space.


and if he doesnt talk to you after that then you should forget about him because hes obviously not going to get over it.





PS. Its a good thing to look young for your age.


Imagine looking 50 @ 60! WOOO!


I look 2 years younger than i actually am.


Good luck.


x
Reply:Seems to me as if he's using an excuse for something else. If he's attracted to you by the pics you've exchanged before you met, he already knew what you looked like. I can almost guarantee that there's something else going on and he's hiding it. I can't tell you what to do. That's up to you. But if you feel like dragging it out, tell him you're not buying the bologna and to come clean so you can get on with your life.





Good luck. This really sucks.
Reply:I think he's telling the truth, sorry, because he wouldn't just give up a girl for what age thy look! He sounds nice I mean at least we know he's not going to rape you!


Myspace can be iffy
Reply:its really difficult, but imagine he looked like an old man... could you bear to kiss him?


unless you say that youll give it a break untill youre older?


or maybe its how you dress? do you wear young clothes?


maybe you should wear make up.





but i am sorry i think there are other reasons because i am 17 and alot of older men would give anything to sleep with me because i am attractive. also men are genetically programmed to find teenagers and young women more attractive because they would be more fertile (psychology)





so tell him is he going to throw it away because you look a couple of years younger than you are or are there any reasons?





good luck my friend xx
Reply:meeting someone one myspace probably wasnt a goo idea, you should have met with friends first ans stuff, try again but bring friends and tell him to bring friends