Why am I choosing this path? I really need your advice please!?

I have dated this guy for 2 years and love him very much (I'm 20 years old, he's 22). I found out that he already had a girlfriend. He explained to me that he cared for me but his gf didn't do anything wrong,so he couldn't break up with her. I understood his situaton and willing to be his second gf. We continue our relatioship for a while. But somehow I think it's wrong, so I broke up with him. After the day of the broke up, he came over to my house, hold me tight, kissed me, and said he didn't want to lose me. We got back together b/c I love him. Then a few days later, he called and said "ok, let's broke up". I cried really hard, but still wanted him back. We chat online %26amp; I told him him: don't come to me anymore b/c he'll make it harder for me to break up with him. Yesterday, he came to my house and brought flowers to me. I couldn't reject his love, we got back together again. Help me. I know I am wrong. But I love him very much and I want to be with him. I need your advice!

Why am I choosing this path? I really need your advice please!?
haha your getting used like a dummy. and your letting him! he doesn't love you. there is no way he does. when you truly love someone you don't date other people. you are wasting your time on this dog. i know its hard to face but the honest to god truth is he doesn't love you. and if anyone has ever been honestly in love they will tell you the same thing. go find a man who is yours and yours only. plus you shouldn't be a home wrecker. that girl had him first anyway. let her deal with his cheating bum. you don't know how she feels about him. i bet he tells her the exact same things he tells her. he probably hold her at night and tells her he loves her. she may not even suspect you exist. what goes around comes around. you remember that and stop being a tramp
Reply:When you get tired of being used you'll break it off.
Reply:If a guy makes you cry more than he makes you laugh it'll never work. you'll never be happy.
Reply:You don't date dogs. You make them take a walk right? Nuff said!
Reply:I think both the girls involved should break up with him...
Reply:Yes you love him , it looks true as u wrote. but think why he act like this ? why asked to break relation ? mayb u did some thing wrong ? or you are too much touchy and jealous?

i will say first u see if you are ok and did not did any mistake .

after that if you did not did which can hurt him then better you don't meet him and make your self bz in some thing . and even avoid to chat even. i know its very hard.

but u think u just need him as ppl like to see dreams or u need him in real ?

if u will continue to act like this and will chat even he hurt you then its mean u r only dreamer and u r happy to ur this life . if not then i hope u can find any other good lover and good friends.

take care
Reply:call his bluff, tell him you have met someone else and that now he is also the second person and see what his reaction is. if that doesnt make him finish with her and just be with you then get rid. because you have to tell yourself that if you did get with him then he might eventually do the same to you. you should only ever play the leading lady in your own life not an extra. i know its easy for a stranger to say dont do it, when you are in love only you know how you feel and you cant fall out of love instantly..just think about it thats all, good luck xx
Reply:Why is it that everytime a girl falls in love, even though the guy is a real jerk, they will still not know when to let go and get out? The guy is just using you and the other girl for his selfish needs and giving all sort of excuses for not being able to make a clean break either way. You need to wise up and open your eyes (love need not be blind!!!~!) and see for yourself the truth for what it is. The guy cannot be trusted, is selfish, is not worthy of your love and should be given the boot!



Don't be swayed and taken in by a bunch of flowers! If he cannot make a choice on who he wants and is not willing to give up either one of you for the other, then he is being unfair to both of you and only concern for himself. Is such a jerk worth having?



Stop letting him enjoy the best of both worlds - it is only a matter of time before he ditch you and hurt you even more. Get out now while you you can and stop the self-torture and agony of wondering when he will love you and you alone. (It's never gonna happen!).
Reply:are you having sex with him everytime you guys make up? if you are, stop having sex with him when you make up, and most likely he wont come back after a couple times of doing that. he's a wannabe player and he's hurting you. you should know better than to go back. I know its hard, but its even harder to know that none of this will change if you dont change, and ALOT of pain now is a lot better than alot of pain forever
Reply:dump this chump. do you like being the "other woman"?
Reply:What a looser and I cant believe your falling for it! Once a player always a player huni.



Forget this creep and go find your self a real man and better than that one all to yourself.



How gross knowing your sharing with someone else!
Reply:omg so you spent 2 years with him and at the same time he had a girlfriend?!?! listen to me and tell him to choose or else .. its not fair on you, neither of you actually
Reply:This is not a nice guy... he's a player and he's playing you....He is a 2 timer and does not deserve your love. He is cheating on his girl and on you. Walk away. You deserve someone who puts you first.
Reply:go with what Leo said

Leo: " are you having sex with him everytime you guys make up? if you are, stop having sex with him when you make up, and most likely he wont come back after a couple times of doing that. he's a wannabe player and he's hurting you. you should know better than to go back. I know its hard, but its even harder to know that none of this will change if you dont change, and ALOT of pain now is a lot better than alot of pain forever"
Reply:ib have heard that love is life,but please don't let your love spoil your life, love makes life so please don't let him get physical with you.best of luck.
Reply:I understand how you feel. I am doing same thing with my ex and I know it is SO wrong and all I get is heartaches at the end. But, I can't stop loving him and I miss him dearly everyday. I know we had our own reasons why we broke up but we keep going back and forth being so hurt.



I think you shouldn't talk to him for awhile or avoid seeing him. I know it is VERY VERY Hard and I completely understand but I am gonna do the same thing. I would want to remember my relationship with him as positive one than be all bitter and hurtful about it after. Ya know?
Reply:Wow - he's playing you both. He should be with one or the other, and you shouldn't settle for second best.
Reply:He is the one who needs to make a choice. If he can't break up to the other girl for you that means he is not strong enough to fight for your love and is not worthy of your love.



You can not be the 2nd gf forever... you deserve something better than that.



All i know is that when you truly love someone you will do anything to protect it ang would fight for it no matter what it takes. If he thinks he still needs some alibi to break up with the other one it only means he still enjoys the company of that person and it's not good for you.